When is Marriage the Right Option?

In this modern time where people in our country are adapting the pop culture – an influence from the west, there are still conservative individuals who believe that marriage is the best solution to a girl’s lost dignity. For those conservative people, there is no other means to save the family from shame. 
Yesterday, I was surprised to see an unfamiliar name popped up on a chat window saying hi and introducing herself. She was a young friend of mine. I made fun of her using the name which sounds masculine. I asked if she was hiding. She replied yes. I said “you haven’t paid your debts”? 
She told me the true reason. Then she mentioned of her being confused at the moment because she was afraid she can’t continue anymore her studies because her mother wanted her to get married. A bit shocked, I asked her if she’s pregnant. “No,” she told me. “You were in the bf’s house?”, “Something had happen with you already?” “Yes was her answer. 
Such actuation is a big deal for conservative people. It means losing a face in the community.
I was raised by very conservative grandparents and I understand what the mother of this girl felt.
Our young of today are doing things which appear acceptable to them since they saw it happened to many. They are influenced by media. The television, movies, the ads and of course the net. 
She asked me if she would give in to her mother’s decision (for sure the mother is more confused.) The boy is still a student like her. Tsk.. tsk.. tsk… still young and no job and would have a hard time finding job if ever.
I couldn’t say Yes or No with her. I just told her to get inside her room and think of the advantages and disadvantages of all the possible options. Choose the option with fewer disadvantages.She shouldn’t get out from her room before she’d reached a decision. When she’s through she must talk with her mother of the decision she has made. i told her it’s her life NOT her mother’s. And that mistakes cannot be corrected with another mistake made. Then I bade goodbye!

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